Monday, 31 January 2011
Neither of us are particularly religious but as I mentioned earlier Mr M is a traditionalist and I personally couldn’t imagine myself getting married anywhere but in church.
Most Presbyterian ministers are very very strict in their views and I’ve known lots of couples who have been refused permission to marry in the church and have babies baptised, so I was prepared for an interrogation on our religious views, our living arrangements (and hence sleeping arrangements) and our enrolment in a pre-marriage course.
Traditionally you meet with your minister at the Manse to discuss these issues and so after putting off the phone call, I built up the courage to contact my minister to arrange a meeting with him. Unexpectedly, he quite casually said “Some day after Church will do”. I couldn’t believe it!
We met with him on Sunday after service (when there was a baby’s baptism and I got very emotional) and were so surprised by his laid-back and down to earth attitude. We felt very much at ease with him, although I already knew he was a lovely, friendly man I hadn’t needed his services personally before. We talked through what we would like and he told us what was normal practice. He told us what other couples had done and then said “But they did things ass about face”.
Ass about face! I almost choked!
We came away looking forward to having him marry us – a man who we could be relaxed with and happily share that special moment with.
Thursday, 27 January 2011
And so we coasted along knowing that it was going to happen, it was just a matter of when. The when became more of an issue when we both realised we were in our 30s and we needed to get a move on. Mr M really felt broody and longed for kiddies but we both wanted to be married before we opened that chapter.
When Mr M popped the question the plan was that we wouldn’t have a very long engagement, the waiting had been done, and we wanted the babies quickly.
There has been many a joke and comment that we will be having a honeymoon baby and Mr M encouraged it!
Now that money is tight and we’ve had to take a loan to cover some of the cost of the wedding, it’s looking like we might have to postpone the baby making. (And that’s assuming that all would go smoothly anyway.)
It seems very ironic that the one thing we needed in order to have babies – marriage – is now going to make us have to wait for them.
Tuesday, 25 January 2011
which I just love. (credit unknown - if anyone knows, please let me know)
I went to see Julie and Linsey at the Vanilla Cake Company and had such great fun I forgot I was potentially spending money. And the samples I requested (when I say samples, I mean huge whole cupcakes) were to die for - Zingy Lemon, White Chocolate and Raspberry and Chocolate Fudge Cake. I actually came away wishing I was their real life friend.
A few weeks later the sketches and prices came through and I got a bit excited. These girls really "got me", we were on the same page and it felt good.
(courtesy of Vanilla Cake Company)
The problem is that now I'm having to prioritise the spending, I'm faced with the possibility that I might not get any of these dream cakes. While they are by no means expensive in the grand scheme of wedding spending, and believe me I have seen less cake for a lot more £££, I have to ask myself, given I didn't want a cake in the first place, whether to just go for a Marks and Spencer cake which can also look great but isn't all that creative.
Any advice to offer a poor bride?
Tuesday, 18 January 2011
Friday, 7 January 2011
You may have already noted from this blog that I am the type to do the opposite of what I am told so there could be trouble if she keeps this up.
Yes, in all likelihood they will be together at the time and of course, she will be invited if that is the case. But please, should you not politely just not mention it until the bride or groom does, and then you can gush about how pleased you are?
Please tell me not to freak out...
My response to her "Are you indeed?". Catty or not, I don't even think she noticed!